I've just read an extract from Dr Tim Lomas' latest book, The Positive Power of Negative Emotions (Piatkus). In it he talks about the good side of our most 'negative' emotions - boredom, guilt, anxiety. He says the loneliness of the empty nest should be viewed as a highly productive 'oasis of calm', with potential for real independence.
He writes, 'If you're an empty nester you may find you've forgotten what your own voice sounds like after being drowned out for so long. Slowly you'll reassert your independence, remember the dreams you once had and the places you longed to visit - this can emerge not in the midst of a hectic life, but as a result of peaceful solitude. '
So take heart if your child has just left. It may take a while to find a new direction - but it really is the unexpected silver lining.
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